There is something to be said about an old friend. The ones who weave in and out of your life like ribbons. You can go months without talking to them, and then suddenly they are back in your life like there was never an absence. They are the ones who know the best of you, the worst of you, and everything in between.
I have a dear friend like that. Good friends since our teens, we have been separated over the years not by bad things or choice, just by circumstance. And when we need each other, its like we pop back into each others lives without knowing why. Despite what is going on in her life, she always has a good piece of advice, or an encouraging word. I feel like I go through life looking for connections like this with every friend I make, only to realize that sometimes the important ones have been there all along. Minus the few that have actually become my new old friends I will have for life. They are just hiding in the sidelines, waiting for the right moment to pop up and cheer you on.
“You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.” Joel Osteen
In my younger days, I would go out any weeknight to meet anyone for drinks. Now I would rather spend an evening with my husband and Netflix. It would take something pretty exciting to get me to choose otherwise. I recently read a great article that talks about the difficulty of finding friends in your 30’s and even more so when you have a significant other. Marla Paul, author of “The Friendship Crisis: Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends When You’re Not a Kid Anymore”, says that the bar is higher than when we were younger when we were willing to meet almost anyone for a margarita.